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The Stories of our Post Baby Flesh

February 15, 2020 By Danielle 1 Comment

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Every word of this is like a prayer for the soul.

Every word of this is like a prayer for the soul.

Which line resonates the most for you?

❤️

Love this from @lavenderthebook

For the days when you doubt yourself It's human t

For the days when you doubt yourself

It's human to have doubts and negative thoughts. And we are definitely human.

Part of this human gig is a supremely active brain which can work against us.

We doubt parenting capability, or decisions made regarding family.

We question business choices that didn't play out how we hoped.

Sometimes that niggly little committee of voices in our head inspires a bout of overthinking.

I call them the Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.

The more work I do, the more I realise that this never really completely goes away.

It can get quiet for a while, but it is a deeply human trait to question whether or not you're on the right path, or doing or saying the right things.

Here's the thing-

Majority of humans experience self-doubt-

(narcissists and psychopaths excluded. Congratulations on not being one of them,)

- You don't really have a whole lot of control over it.

What you do have control over is what you do with it.

If that voice is telling you you're a crappy parent because you forgot a school note time three times in a row,

Or you lost your shit in public,

Or your kid is struggling in some way,

You can choose to believe that as fact.

Or not.

If the niggly doubt monster whispers that because a decision didn't pan out you're useless,

Or a mistake you made at work means you're an incompetent booby,

You can choose whether or not this is actual fact…

Or just your inner critic being an asshole.

Could you have done things differently or better? Sure.

Do you deserve to be stripped, whipped and flayed by our inner self? Definitely not.

Can you learn and do things differently next time? Absolutely.

This is progress.

When you're giving yourself a hard time,

Imagine the most loving, benevolent, gentle soul you know (or you can imagine) and ask -

“What they would say to me in this situation?”

This voice of kindness and compassion is the antidote to harsh thoughts and doubts.

In fact, kindness and compassion is the antidote to most things (except narcissists and psychopaths, funnily enough.)

So, that's your mission this week, should you choose to accept it.

Let me know how you go

I was utterly exhausted to my very marrow. Every

I was utterly exhausted to my very marrow.

Everyday I had the physical energy I needed get through…

To work out, get my steps in, look after the family, run a business, give energy to my clients, manage the family appointments, do the after school activities,

And keep all of those multicoloured juggling balls aloft like Life Boss.

Like you do too, right? Day in and day out.

Physical energy isn’t the root of the malaise and the heaviness in your movements-

Emotional energy is the culprit.

You are emotionally spent.

The kind of exhaustion that hits when you’ve cared about all the things for too long,

And shouldered too much with no end in sight.

Do you feel that?

Like not even a million year nap will bring back your pep and spark?

Listen to your soul whispering to you. Listen to your body.

That is a whole squad of cheerleaders waving red flags for imminent burnout.

But you can’t just stop.

“No responsibilities this month please, I’m tired of adulting. Jog on.”

If only.

It’s time to recognise that what you’re doing is not working,

And it’s not sustainable because this caper is not fun living.

Could you shift the balance in your life so you are not at the bottom of the pile,

Constantly giving the best of you to everyone and everything else?

You might think you’ll be fine after a spin class and a bath, a long weekend, or a bougie holiday,

But you won’t.

Getting the edge of burning and not going over requires not just care and rest,

But rewiring.

Or you’ll end up right back there again.

This old mode of survival got you here, and I’m so glad you are here,

But it won’t get where you are supposed to be.

Peace, joy, contentment and ease.

If you’re tired of being emotionally exhausted DM me.

If you want to flip Burnout-ville the bird and avoid that stop, I’ve got you covered.

I met two women this weekend in two different mome

I met two women this weekend in two different moments, and on hearing where I’m at they both said-

“How can I support you?”

“Let’s have coffee and see how I can support you.”

That shit is lit.

Women helping each other to rise and helping each other to shine.

That’s the power of a like minded community,

That’s the beauty of open hearted, expansive thinking.

And that’s where it’s at.

Lifting each other higher, knowing there’s enough for all of us.

When you have supportive women flanking you, you know you can ride into anything.

Do you know I have a Facebook community- Your Good Life Collective- for exactly that?

Like-minded, expansive humans lifting each other up, holding each other accountable and shining bright lights to light the way for each other.

Even more than that, it’s a safe space to share thoughts, feelings and wins.

And by god, we love celebrating the wins.

If your life is missing wolf pack, come and join ours-

All you need to be open minded and open hearted and you are welcome.

Link in bio to join.

Want some of that?

Double digits! This sweet, sassy, savvy, smart a

Double digits!

This sweet, sassy, savvy, smart and sensitive soul- my baby- has busted out a decade.

Perfectly timed to coincide with Mother’s Day.

What an awesome human you are, dear heart.

Be fierce. Be bold. And most of all just be all of you- quirky, kind, astute, curious and hilarious.

Thanks for all your magnificent pep talks. How did you get so wise?

I love you, Wiggles.

To infinity and back.

24 hours of a solo retreat. When did you last do t

24 hours of a solo retreat.
When did you last do that?

A night away alone.

Not to visit a friend. Nor to focus on work.

But to unfurl in the safety of your own space.

Sometimes the idea of a “retreat” seems too wild, too hard to organise, too far fetched or too expensive,

But it’s not about what you do-
More how you do it.

I booked a lovely Airbnb near a National Park 2hrs away but you could arrange a house swap or get a cheap hotel or even do it at home if you can get rid of everyone else.

At an actual retreat you would enjoy an array of restorative activities…

So I created that myself.

Healthful nourishing food procured in the local area.

An energy healing session with @sarah.mcgahan in her free Wealthy Women’s Collective group on Facebook while eating chocolate mousse in bed.

Reading books I’ve been wanting to get into.

A chakra cleansing sound bath meditation on YouTube.

A 2 hr hike at dawn on a sacred Aboriginal site.

Journaling and contemplative time (read: daydreaming hard.)

I had yoga booked at a local studio but I blew it out in order to read @breathemagazine_australia in the sun under a blankie on the couch.

I then took myself out for breakfast and coffee before enjoying an afternoon of connecting with inspiring women.

Whilst 24hrs is a divine amount of time and not a huge ask, you may not feel you could not swing even that.

A whole day would be enough to work wonders.

If you’re solo, swap a day with another mum so you both get the retreat time.

You are so busy taking care of everyone and everything all the time,

You are often last.

No more leaving yourself to last, sister.

You cannot pour from an empty cup.

Put yourself first as often as you can to refill your emotional and energetic stores.

I’m home again.

Replenished. Satisfied. All the Tenby fragmented pieces are meshed together once more.

Do you solo retreat? Would you like to?

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