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10 things to ditch today to feel happier tomorrow

10 Things To Ditch Today To Feel Happier Tomorrow

You know you want to feel happier, but you don’t know how to take it from a concept to reality. Happiness is not an elusive unicorn, however, we often let things stand in the way of true contentment, like focusing too heavily on what others are doing and not tending to your own garden – … Continue Reading

The cost of perfectionism

What is the cost of your perfectionism?

Lucy* has a pretty damn near perfect life. She runs an award-winning business, she has been mostly happily married for 25 years, has two healthy kids, and a lovely home in a charming town. A busy, independent tower of strength, she would never ask for help and if anyone offers, forget it. She has everything … Continue Reading

are your boundaries causing burn out?

Are your crappy boundaries causing burnout?

Victoria* thinks she struggles to speak up for herself, but what she doesn’t realise is her biggest challenge is really her crappy boundaries. At work, she says “yes” to more work when her plate is already overflowing. When her colleagues or someone in her family does something she is not comfortable with she bites her … Continue Reading

The Stories of our Post Baby Flesh

First published on Keeping Up With The Holsbys in 2014 I recently received a Facebook ad in my newsfeed for a brilliant new procedure being offered to mums. It was enticingly titled – ‘Australia’s First Mummy Makeover Package.’ The makeover consisted of a little tummy tuck for the excess skin where your flesh stretched to … Continue Reading

Thought you’d have your sh*t together by now?

When I was in my twenties I had a magnificently clear picture of what my life would look like by forty. I’d be a well-known actor/director who had a fulfilling and sustainable career both in front of and behind the camera, a handsome loving husband, a couple of well-behaved kids, maybe a dog, and definitely, … Continue Reading

how to help a loved one die

We are all going to die, but do any of us know how to?

I had never given much thought to helping a loved one die. It was about 9pm on a freezing winter’s night, with the sound of the wind howling across the picturesque bay my Dad lived on. My children were sleeping on the other side of the house and I popped in to say goodnight to … Continue Reading

gratitude

Show more gratitude today to feel better tomorrow.

Some days may feel like a ball ache, with not a whole lot to be thankful for. If a loved one’s health is declining, or your life has taken an unexpected turn, gratitude might seem an out-of-reach fantast for hippies. On other days, though, things could be totally different. You might feel that life is … Continue Reading

lose weight permanently

The real reason you can’t keep that weight off

Have you been on a roller coaster ride trying to lose weight permanently? You are not alone, but this is not another article suggesting that you need to be a certain size or a look a certain way to be healthy or happy. Happy healthy bodies come in many shapes and sizes. If you do … Continue Reading

benefits of smiling

What happens when you smile at strangers for a week?

This morning, as I walked along the beachside promenade, I flipped smiles casually to passersby. Some people looked away probably presuming I’m a psychopath, but often people smiled back. When I got a “hi” or “good morning” it was a like hitting a little feel-good jackpot because it’s hard to know precisely how you’ll be … Continue Reading

body image movement your good life

Is self-acceptance just an excuse to let it all go?

  Body image activist from the Body Image Movement, Taryn Brumfit, hit a global nerve when she posted an unconventional before-and-after image of herself in 2013. The first image was her post three babies, as a buff, bronze fitness model at the height of her game. The second image was her naked body in all … Continue Reading

emotional baggage

Your emotional baggage is not a golden ticket to be a dick

I was involved in a conversation recently where people were talking about someone they were kinda friends with. I say kinda because hanging out with this often charming, clever and humorous person was akin to hanging out with a sweet, fluffy animal who occasionally tried to inviscerate you when you weren’t watching. This ‘kinda friend’ was … Continue Reading